For all youngsters – what is Love?

If you look around you will see that some people are serious about their relationship, they are ready to commit, they are ready to compromise on many things and you also see that some people are frivolous and take their relations lightly. For many, it is like changing gadgets or clothes. I mean, I see the younger people jumping from one relation into other aimlessly. I wonder what they want from relationship; love, passion, stability, serenity, friendship, commitment, or what? They are so confused, they want too many things or they just want to kill time with somebody. Many people are not ready for a serious relationship, and are just after a bit of fun here and there. You see this in so many movies.

Every person who falls in love experiences variety of agonies and pleasures of love. Each person has his/her own character and personality; they have different backgrounds and conditions. So there is no set of rule that applies equally to everyone. Also, whom a person dates is also a matter of personal choice. No one has any right to intrude in anybody’s private affair. Yes the youngsters say, not even their parents.  But, our heart and gut do give us signals about the right or the wrong person. Do we hear to them?

I think if your love does not allow losing sight of pursuing your own personal development, if your love is helping you to expand your life and bring forth your inherent potential with fresh and dynamic vitality then you have found an ideal partner.

People often lose all objectivity when they fall in love. If the relationship you’re in is causing your parents, your well wishers to worry, or making you ignore your studies or engage in negative behavior, then you and the person you’re seeing are only being a negative influence and impediment to each other. Neither of you will be happy if you both just end up hurting each other. If you are neglecting the things you should be doing, forgetting your purpose in life because of the relationship you’re in, then you are not in the right company. A healthy relationship is one in which two people encourage each other to reach their respective goals while sharing each other’s hopes and dreams. A relationship should be a source of inspiration, invigoration and hope. You and your partner must respect each other’s views points, strengths and weaknesses.

Love is a complex matter that is a reflection of each person’s attitude and philosophy toward life. That is the reason people shouldn’t get involved in relationships lightly. The bottom line is that, without respect, no relationship will last for very long, nor will two people be able to bring out the best in each other. When you meet that special someone, you know that you have and that’s when you start to take the relationship more serious.

A relationship needs to be worked at, and if you truly love and care for someone, you will do this with ease. And the most important thing is see what attitude your partner has towards sex because it is the serious step in a relationship that needs to be considered very carefully. It has long and hard consequences of taking that step. After which your relationship will no longer be the same.

Please don’t surrender to the view that love is the be-all and end-all, deluding yourself that as long as you are in love, nothing else matters. Nor, I hope, you will not buy into the misguided concept that falling ever deeper into a painful and destructive relationship is somehow cool. It’s not.