White lie is not dangerous, in sense it doesn’t harm anybody; it’s a trivial lie, especially the one told to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. The average person tells 4 lies a day or 1460 a year; a total of 87,600 by the age of 60. Isn’t that scaring? These can be white lies, big lies, and serious ones spoken to cheat, to please, to get favor anything. And, we ignore the amount of energy we waste on lying. Think of it. Cooking up stories for reaching late for a function, to office, to school, college; complimenting somebody’s dress even if it doesn’t suit the person; praising somebody when you don’t want to….the list is unending.

We think that relations last only if we don’t always say exactly what we’re thinking. We have to disguise our feelings, to trick, to smile sometimes when we want to shout, to be polite when we want to punch. In short, we keep lying. I think people who find themselves most deceived by the lies of lovers are the ones who have the most unrealistic and impractical expectations about truthfulness. And the people who are most inclined to believe the lies they shouldn’t, are the ones who tell themselves the biggest lies….

When we say the truth or talk factually it does not require us to remember anything; it requires no further work on our part. When we tell the truth, we don’t need to keep a track of it. On the other hand, lies need to be protected. And, the truth is lies beget other lies. Wisdom says once you stop telling lies the universe starts believing you. The universal energy starts caring for you because every word out of your mouth is truth.

But, we live in a society that conditions us to lie by telling us that in many situations lies are justified. The secretary tell visitors that “boss is busy” when in fact he is yapping with a friend on phone; the firms exaggerate the qualities of their products; job applicants fake their SWOT analysis; doctors give false diagnosis to their patients for heftier bills; lawyers lie in the court blatantly to save wrongdoers in society. And, governments promises new hope to its citizens while continually deceiving them. Leonard Saxe, a PhD and a polygraph expert and professor of psychology at Brandeis University, says, “Lying has long been a part of everyday life. We couldn’t get through the day without being deceptive.” Polygraph is a machine designed to detect and record changes in physiological characteristics, such as a person’s pulse and breathing rates, used especially as a lie detector.

Check this out: while talking to a close friend, how many of us tell only our part of a story? Do we even once bother to tell the other side of the story? Don’t we rephrase the conversations we had with third parties? Do we even think once what impressions we might create about the third persons in our friend’s mind? Basically, while lying so many things, don’t we manipulate our friend to say what we want to hear? And isn’t it foolish when we control a response by shading the truth, inadvertently we create an alternate, a false reality between us and another person.

We talk lies in many ways; by omitting facts, by exaggerating, lying to protect self, gossip, or sometimes lying for the sake of it.

People tend to exaggerate to hide their insecurities about themselves. By exaggeration, a person may try to preserve a certain image of him for the sake of seeking approval from others. However, when you exaggerate or don’t represent yourself honestly, you are left feeling like a fraud, which further hurts your self-esteem. When people exaggerate their skills, their talent, contacts, qualifications, happiness, reputation, it only leads them in deep trouble because their actions fail to match their words. It’s difficult to hide results; it may be a broken promise, a missed meeting or poor performance. Exaggerating reckons a person’s dishonesty.

We all have an inner critic in us who coaches us to say things which we don’t intend to. This inner coach makes us apprehensive. This critic often damages things instead of setting them right. It makes us vulnerable. It makes us downplay our role for trivial things. It makes us act sometimes rude, sometimes generous, and sometimes overtly friendly. It drives us away from our real goals. Keeping the little ghost (our inner coach) in check is necessary.

When people gossip they are full of white lies, serious lies, big lies, foul lies, and gossip has no limits. We don’t really think when we gossip and it’s everywhere. In every household, office, gym, school, college, coffee house – go anywhere somebody or the else is busy gossiping. We don’t realize that gossip breeds pessimism and distrust. It destroys goodness in the world. Why can’t people communicate directly? Gossip is infectious.

“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth” this has its origins in an actual Buddha quote. You can take chances on the people you care about by being a lot more honest and direct with them. You can find healthy and considerate ways to express yourself and to be sensitive to the other person’s sense of reality. The truth may not always be easy to hear or said, but in the long run it might save elegance and serenity. And, you will earn a lot more trust and respect from the people whose opinion matters to you the most. Finally, this world may not be perfect, nor is the truth always easy to take, but you can find peace and freedom if you take a chance and create a world around you that is real.

A frown (also known as a scowl) is a facial expression in which the eyebrows are brought together, and the forehead is wrinkled, usually indicating displeasure, sadness or worry. We frown when we are confused and when we want to concentrate deeply on something.

By technical definition, it is wrinkling of brows. In North America it is primarily thought of as an expression of the mouth. In those cases when used satirically, as with an emotion, it is entirely presented by the curve of the lips forming a down-open curve. The mouth expression is also commonly referred to in the informal English phrase “turn that frown upside down” which indicates changing from sad to smiling face.

Charles Darwin described the primary act of frowning as the furrowing of the brow which leads to a rise in the upper lip and a down-turning of the corners of the mouth. In fact, frowning as a component of anger or disgust is widely recognized as a universal expression easily recognized across all cultures. In fact if you recall some good old day’s movies, you will recollect how some great actors used frowning to their advantage, while expressing some very intense feelings.

If you haven’t seen this Hitchcock movie of 1963 “Charade” staring Cary Grant with Audrey Hepburn which evocates one of Grant’s lighter Hitchcock roles. In the movie, Hepburn is a suddenly widowed beauty being pursued by a nasty bunch of American gangsters in Paris, and Grant is her mysterious protector. I think everyone should watch this movie for really watching how casually Cary Grant has used frowning to portray his role as Hepburn’s guard.

When frowns incorporate the furrowing of the brows they are a response to seeming obstacles in achieving of goals. While frowns that involve movement of the cheeks reflect an unpleasant reaction. We frown in exclamation to show our excitement, we frown to portray our disgust, while presenting questioning, or even to reveal grief. So you see, frown is used to enlighten all sorts of expressions.

The medical science presents that we have an intuitive part of our brain that is always effortlessly running in the background, and every so often when we want to recall or remember something, and it just doesn’t come easily – in other words when hyper efficient part of our brain influences our conscious thinking to a far greater extent and much more, it seems habitually clinching of brows helps a little to recollect. There are some muscles which are expanded and contracted according to nerve’s request which helps to ponder more.

It seems frowning reduces overconfidence and reliance on intuition. Yes, we naturally clench our brow muscles when we are thinking hard or focusing on a problem. Another research says that when we are shy and cannot express freely in words, when we are afraid to talk to people, we have a natural frown. Also, while we don’t like ourselves for our shyness, for forgetting things often, or for not being able to answer immediately logically, we frown at ourselves. Watch yourself next time. Even, when we are bored, daydreaming, upset there is this frown on our face.

Frown is natural part of our being. Don’t try changing it; you don’t have to spend your valued time and energy changing your natural being. Yes, but if you can change your emotions instead, to overcome the frowning, do it.  If you are in a happy state of mind, it will overcome your frown. If you are angry, sullen, quiet, you are going to frown.

 Some people have naturally serious looking face, almost like a frown. If people keep on telling them to smile, be cheerful it annoys them. I think we should learn to respect others, show some manners. It does not mean those serious looking people are not happy or something is wrong with them. Remember next time before you tell somebody to smile.

Both smiles and frowns are normal twofold expressions; this is the wisdom. We cannot ever battle with these two never-ending emotional expressions. While we laugh, we frown as well. The exit from this battle requires us to surpass such human emotions and realize that we are neither good nor wicked, or that we are both. We are human and when we realize this, we see that laughing or crying (frowning) is the color that we smear our life with.

And, if you are worried about your frowning habit (if you feel you are constantly frowning) you can stop frowning by massaging your forehead. You can use moisturizer if you feel like. From the center of your forehead, run your hands outwardly to the side of your head. Do this for one minute. When you do this, it helps you to relax any tensed muscles on your forehead and the frown disappears.