Social media gives everyone a chance to express their feelings. While many are vocal about their feelings, there are quite a few others who find it difficult to express themselves in words. They are shy, rigid to some extent while expressing their real inner feelings. It need not be physical fighting anymore, these days most people have taken to social networking sites to vent out their frustrations. However, what’s worrying is the impulsiveness of these vents; it just takes a few seconds for people to voice themselves on this platform. Here’s how this platform has lately generated a marathon of impulsive outbursts and why.

Salman Khan’s tweets on Yakub Memon’s death penalty recently did not go down well with the public. A few hours later, he was forced to delete them. Why are some people so impulsive to tweet?

Donald Trump’s presidential campaign has seen many surprises. In July, even as the topic of immigration heated up between candidates, Trump re tweeted an offensive comment about the former Florida Governor Jeb Bush that said, “JebBush has to like the Mexican Illegal’s because of his wife.” Neither Trump nor his campaign commented on the decision to delete the tweet.

The point is tweeting or face book is a simple process. It’s the easier way to vent out your feelings, you can write as much and whatever you wish to, without mentioning who it is for. With new age connectivity, your outbreak will be in public in a fraction of seconds. It’s become so simple to connect with the world. One need not sulk in a cocoon.  The person can have a good experience; so many people want to rush to the sender’s aid. Social networking has a wide reach. Everyone from your close friends to acquaintances to friends of friends as well as others across the globe can see your post and get a fair idea about the state of your mind. Many of these contacts want to rescue you, do well to you. Why not take a chance?

But, while the response can be gratifying:  the response to your outburst can be so flattering that you feel triumphant about the situation. You’ve been empathised and sympathised with as well as garnered a lot of praise for being so courageous. This encourages you to rage an online war anytime. But on the flip side: once posted, the world is given something to gossip about what you are going through. That’s not all, this being an impulsive outburst, is obviously not backed with reason and thought. The words that come to your mind immediately after a argument might change later on. After you are cooled down, you might have a different angle to look at your problem.  However, the damage is already done; in spite of the ‘delete post’ option, the post still remains in the database of the people who responded over it, in their inboxes and notifications at times. Finally, although an outburst of a temporary state of mind, this action causes a permanent damage, if the person is of concern to you.

Friends, social networking is alike a match stick in hand: if you use it properly its fine else it burns your goodwill. We tend to take our digital personas lightly at times, than we present ourselves in reality. We can mask our personas on social media but in reality.

Individuals who are more impulsive and get distracted easily may be drawn to social media for anything and everything. For some time they do get solace; their experience with these media then encourages them to jump quickly from one event to the next, further developing their tendency to respond impulsively can be reduced if only they decide firmly.  Let’s not treat the social media as garbage box. Stop for a moment before you want to wash your dirty linen in public.

Changing multiple partners has become a fashion. It’s like buying and throwing clothes, shoes, purse, wallets or gadgets. While many married couples see a different side to their spouses every day and then wonder how did I not notice that before? One reason for the live in relationships is testing your partner’s compatibility. What once upon a time parents did of matching horoscopes as a compatibility test is obsolete. Today, cast-creed, religion, age, education, profession – these and many other age-old parameters has taken a back seat.

Cinema has always been considered the barometer of portraying society’s changing outlook; so if cinema today shows live-in relations (Shuddh Desi Romance) clicking among small town couples, I think the idea of romance itself is changing very fast. Live-in relationships and pre-marital sex have emerged as the lifestyles choice for people across smaller and bigger towns and cities. The so-called Indian culture and tradition have gone for a toss.

The reasons are numerous for this transformation: from knowing your partner’s view on important topics such as religion, sex, money, politics etc, knowing some annoying habits, his/her attachment to parents and siblings, who his/her friends are some. Can everything be examined and tested in life? If yes, would any charm remain in life? Previously, young couples would spend initial years of their marriage in knowing their partner. But, due to fast pace of life such short-term associations are thriving. A major factor that drives people to live-in is parents’ objection to inter-caste/community marriages, and a growing disinclination to sacrifice personal agendas.

In India, a bench headed by Justice K.S Radhakrishnan said the domain of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 – which for the first time recognized a man-woman relationship outside wedlock – did not cover live-in relationships in general. However, it added: “Live-in or marriage-like relationship is neither a crime nor a sin though socially unacceptable in this country.”

Elaborating on what should be taken into consideration to decide if a live-in relationship fell within the expression “in the nature of marriage” so as to be covered under the law, the bench listed eight parameters – duration of relationship, shared household, pooling of resources and financial arrangements, domestic arrangements, sexual relationship, children, socialization in public and intention and conduct of the parties about their relationship.

It recommended that Parliament consider a proper law to address the problems faced by a large number of women in live-in relationships that are not in the nature of marriage and, hence, not covered under the act. The Supreme Court has said that if a man and woman “lived like husband and wife” for a long period and had children; the judiciary would presume that the two were married.

In a live-in relationship if you aren’t satisfied with your partner or you get bored of seeing the same face every morning, then you can pack your bags and move out without any legal measures or hassles. Whilst in a marriage, the legal proceedings are time consuming, money consuming and frustrating. Some amount of disturbance, annoyance, emotional drain is accepted. Most of the youth these days are unwilling to commit themselves. Everyone wants their space, they don’t like to be followed, and nobody wants any obligation attached. It’s live life like a free bird.

Married Partners have lot of hassles after their marriage is dissolved; payment of debts, dividing family assets, lawyer’s fees, attending the court, if children are there – their responsibilities and many more problems need to be sorted out. If a live in couple realize they are not compatible with each they can easily break up without any restraints. It’s all reciprocal and mutual in live-in relations.

A live in relationship does not bother about social norms; this, because at present it falls outside the norms of societal structure. But, sooner or later, there might come a time that this relationship will need some law adherence. The partner’s parents, friends, relatives etc have no place in a live-in relationship. Today’s “modern” youth today have no problems on this account and are a lot more open minded. Family get-togethers and functions are not important to them. They don’t crib if the partner’s family likes or dislikes them.

All sorts of freedom is given and taken in this relation. And, this is the main benefit. Couples don’t have to give up any rights nor accept any duties or responsibilities. Financial restriction is avoided at all costs. Both parties involved, avoid sharing their financial earnings and avoid entering into joint financial ventures.

On the other hand, a long matrimony does not necessarily be a happy or satisfying one. But, when couples stay together for numerous reasons – economics, the sake of the family unity or duty, convenience, or religious beliefs so on and forth; there are some advantages. Since you grow with your partner for many years of your life, he/she is familiar with your likes, dislikes, your health issues, your strengths and weaknesses. The number of problems faced by both allows each other to discover and redefine their relationship. For some, this manifests in more unrestricted division of household chores; for others it represents new joint interests or activities. And, when both grow older, their happiness and sadness levels grow or decline in sync. A new study suggests giving marriage a trial. The findings suggest a possible resource that hasn’t been tapped for promoting healthy aging. Similar to a pill or other treatment, cheerful spouses may boost a partner’s feelings of well-being. Marriage certainly eliminates loneliness from your life. It is very tough to live singly in the later part of life.

What would the future society be like; single parents or not known parents, no extended family, no social attachments, no acquaintances, and a scattered life; nobody to turn to, no body to rely on.  It sounds creepy isn’t it?