Why we don’t value our relationships?
We mistaken people around us so often by taking them for granted. We jump to conclusions, misunderstand somebody’s intension, insult them, hurt them and relationship reaches its sour conclusion. I always feel that discovering the advantages of association and affiliation is not difficult. All it takes is the enthusiasm to look at our relationships with others from a different perspective than we are used to. When we become complacent with our colleagues, friends, partner, children, teachers, bosses, parents, siblings and neighbors we fall into a trap. Our day after day interactions with them compel us to fit them into our ideas. If we pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not who we want them to be, each relationship will turn out to be enriching. In fact, we don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do. And truly knowing someone is a big deal and takes a lifetime to know how wonderful he or she is. Every human being is amazing and beautiful in his own unique way. It just takes a patience and candid set of eyes to see it. The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their exterior and see the beauty of who they truly are.
After brief experience with others around us, the biggest mistake we all commit is searching what they don’t have rather than what they posses. A familiar routine tends to make us bored easily.
Normally, we try to estimate the value of our lives by looking at the upper class of society. We compare what they posses to the (“few”) things we have. Rather than this approach (that is leading nowhere), I recommend making oneself aware of people that have less and their unique capability to make much of less.
When people break up, it’s common to regret it. People end up relationships irrationally because they think they can do better without the relationship. Sometimes it is too little too late and people learn from their unfortunate decision. What screws a person up is trying to live up to image they create in their minds. There is no such thing as perfect, only perfect for you.
What you have now was once everything you strove to attain. Just because something becomes repetitive does not mean it needs to be replaced. Think of how lucky you are to have someone you can be completely comfortable around, that is a true gift and one that should be cherished at all times.
Appreciate all the things you have in life because you never know when that time will end. Clear the clutter inside your mind and realize what you have right now. Don’t wait until you’ve lost it to finally see how much you took it for granted. Don’t wait until you realize that without it, your foundation to make it through each day begins to crumble.
Too many times people don’t realize what they have because they are out there looking for something better. The problem is that when they do realize it, they will come crawling back. Everyone falls into the trap that the grass is always greener on the other side. People make mistakes, its part of human nature. If you really love this person it may be in both people’s best interest to give him or her chance. Sometimes space makes people appreciate things they once had. You need to make it clear that you forgive one time, and one time only, and if this is what you truly want.
However on the flip side, you can only want something when you haven’t got it. If you had it back, you would only get fed up with all the bad bits again and start wondering why you wanted it back in the first place. When you lose someone, you tend to remember the good parts, when you are with them, you tend to notice the bad parts; this is of course until you find the one you were truly meant to be with, and then the bad bits just seem endearing.
The thing is, very few people can see the impact of what they do now and how it relates to their futures. Which would you rather regret: the present, where you have no idea what is happening as it’s in real time and you haven’t the slightest idea of long-term consequences; or the past where you can take your time to see things as they were? People make mistakes and leave the things they love most. They fail to appreciate the good thing they once had and as a result will continuously regret their decision.
People constantly want something more, something new, glamour, challenging and novel but sometimes the most valuable things are what have been with us at all times. Just because something isn’t happening for you right now does not mean that it never will. Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have. Just like you don’t know what you have until it’s gone, you don’t know what you’ve been missing until it arrives.